I would stray away from using prime to 'detoxify' the water - I don't think that's how it actually works, despite their claims. This thread gives one example of how that just isn't how it works, and is aligned with my experiences (and also what intuitively makes sense to me).Right, my water quality issues seem to finally be under control. I won't make any sudden moves and will keep testing, but ammonia is barely detectable and nitrites are down to 0.2ppm from a high of 1.5, nitrates down to 25ppm from a high of at least 100 so I definitely seem to be on the back end of the cycle.
Oatmeal has been more active lately than when I started this thread, though still not as visible as I'd like - I probably see her for about 30-60 minutes a day poking her head out, and maybe 5 minutes she's roaming the tank which is is great compared to where I was before.
I think I want to have one more go at getting her to make friends with some fish. I know it's risky, and if it doesn't work out then I'll make a decision on whether I want to find her a new home but if it works I think I'll be happy with this tank for the long term. I've found a fellow reefer nearby who's willing to take the fish if I feel like they're imperilled and need to rehouse them.
So here's my thinking... I don't want to buy lots of fish at once because it seems riskier in all sorts of ways - more for Oatmeal to try to catch, more risk the fish don't get along with each other, water quality issues, more risk of disease, more money wasted on fish I could be giving away a few days later and so on. However, I've read over and over that you should add your most aggressive fish last, and yet it seems like my best chance at success with this is to choose fast swimming aggressive fish. I figure if she attacks a six line wrasse there's really no point in trying anything else after that point, but if I put that fish in on it's own, any other fish might be under threat from the wrasse. Therefore I'm thinking of doing either a six line wrasse and a yellow tail damsel at the same time, and seeing Oatmeal gets on with those two for at least a couple of weeks before trying anything else. If Oatmeal lets me I'd love to get to about 6 fish in total, but I'd be happy if I have to stop at two or three.
What I'm thinking of doing is experimenting over the next few days with feeding her to the point where she starts rejecting food so that I know how big her appetite is, then keeping the food at that level for the time being. I figure that way if she attacks the new fish I'll know it isn't because she's hungry, and it reduces the chance of her attacking in the first place.
Grateful for any thoughts on the strategy here, and whether the choice of fish is optimal. I'm obviously limited to what species I can get my hands on in the UK (ideally from my preferred LFS) and I'd prefer to err on the side of cheap and easy species, but the priority is obviously going to be that they're fast enough to evade Oatmeal's murderous clubs and territorial enough not to be too stressed by her.
In my personal opinion and experience (please feel free to share if you disagree) I think in a tank that size, with a mantis already and the type of fish you can actually add, the order of addition isn't as important. Mantis are already a heavy bioload, I don't think you'll be able to add too many fish, and the fish you are adding are likely to be both aggressive and able to hold their own no matter the order.
The strategy of overfeeding the mantis first makes good sense to me. I'd also recommend adding them at night or when the mantis isn't active. If you visibly add it in a way that the mantis associates with how you add fish, my experience is that you're far more likely to encounter issues. Maybe the use of an acclimation box is a good idea here? The mantis might begin to consider the fish as a part of its environment rather than food? Unsure.
I'd also echo waiting a while to add fish until the nitrites and ammonia are entirely gone and strongly encourage you to try get some rock rubble from a dark area of someone else's established sump, and add it to yours in a dark area. This should help with filtration a lot and likely help prevent issues in further. Also buy a few big bottles of pods and dump them in now if you want to prevent further issues down the line IMO