How involved is your spouse/significant other with your hobby?

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  1. Not a fan. He/she probably wishes I’d find a different hobby. The word "obsessed" may have been used

    96 vote(s)
    11.2%
  2. Indifferent. He/she basically ignores the tank. No real interaction.

    113 vote(s)
    13.1%
  3. Encouraging. He/she likes that I like it. Might even go to the LFS with me.

    222 vote(s)
    25.8%
  4. Slightly involved. Not gonna do any “heavy lifting,” but he/she will feed the fish occasionally.

    218 vote(s)
    25.3%
  5. Pretty involved. We share tank tasks some, and they are learning the hobby.

    66 vote(s)
    7.7%
  6. Full-on reefer. We’re a reef team when it comes to designing and maintaining the reef!

    48 vote(s)
    5.6%
  7. MAKE IT STOP! I think he/she needs an intervention. The word "obsessed" comes to mind.

    8 vote(s)
    0.9%
  8. I'm Single. Nobody to judge my reef spending or time spent obsessing over 'just a fish tank'

    89 vote(s)
    10.3%
  1. mdbannister

    mdbannister Ahh...the Reef Life Staff Member Team R2R R2R Supporter R2R Excellence Award Photo of the Month Award Article Contributor Build Thread Contributor Partner Member 2018

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    How involved is your spouse/significant other with your hobby? Vote in the poll above.
     
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  2. jda

    jda Valuable Member

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    My wife like that it keeps me at home. When my kids were younger, she liked that we all could have a lesson, activity or go to the store together. She knows that there are worse hobbies that take more time, cost more money and take me away more often.

    After saying all of that, I doubt that she has even looked in one of my tanks in a few years.
     
  3. S-t-r-e-t-c-h

    S-t-r-e-t-c-h Well-Known Member R2R Supporter Reef Squad R2R Excellence Award

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    I'm realizing that I don't even know how to answer this question. The last tank was coming down as I started getting serious with what is now my wife. I've mentioned to her that the bug has bitten again and she seems to be encouraging, so far. I'm certain though that she'll have nothing to do with the actual maintenance, once a tank is actually back up and running...
     
  4. Fish Werx

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    My wife thinks I spend too much time in the tank, but also realizes that i could have much worse hobbies. Plus, she is getting her renovations she wants on the house, so she kind of looks the other way when I get a new acquisition for the tank..... For now!
    My one saving grace is that my 4 year old son loves it! He may be more obsessed than me! Knows all the actual names of the fish and corals, not the "cartoon version" names... LOL! And she loves that he loves it... Actually going to work a day in to go to WWC when we hit Disney next year.
     
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  5. Crabs Mcjones

    Crabs Mcjones The Gif-A-Nator R2R Supporter Reef Squad Leader R2R Excellence Award Reef Tank 365 Article Contributor Build Thread Contributor Partner Member 2018

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    My wife will maybe glance at the tank when she walks past it...that's about it lol. My two children enjoy it a lot more than she does.
     
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    Giraffe0621 Active Member R2R Supporter Build Thread Contributor

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    Add an option to the poll for "Single -- aka nobody to judge my reef spending or time spent obsessing over 'just a fish tank' " ;)

    Also seeing all these replies, I'm realizing that it seems like men greatly outnumber women on this forum (and maybe in reefing in general?). Any idea why?
     
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    RyanCSGO Valuable Member R2R Supporter Reef Squad R2R Excellence Award Build Thread Contributor Partner Member 2018

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    wife says she doesn't care about the tank, yet wants to pick out things when i get new items and always stops to take a peak when she walks past it.
     
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    ClintL Member Hub City Reef Club

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    I guess i got really lucky, i get to vote the option:
    Full-on reefer. We’re a reef team when it comes to designing and maintaining the reef!
     
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    I wish my wife would at least be this involved lol
     
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    Girlfriend won't have anything to do with it lol
     
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    jmp21677 Active Member

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    She stays out of my hobby...reefing

    I stay out of hers....our kids! ;)
     
  12. mdbannister

    mdbannister Ahh...the Reef Life Staff Member Team R2R R2R Supporter R2R Excellence Award Photo of the Month Award Article Contributor Build Thread Contributor Partner Member 2018

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    Haha! Done!
     
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    Radman73 Well-Known Member Build Thread Contributor

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    My wife definitely falls into the encouraging category. She knows I love it and she and the kids love looking at the tanks I've had. In fact, when I once contemplated getting out she said she'd divorce me lol! She actively helps budget for the tank. Like others have said, I think she knows there are far worse things I could spend time and money on. At least this is something the whole family can enjoy.
     
  14. Mal11224

    Mal11224 Well-Known Member R2R Supporter Reef Tank 365 Build Thread Contributor Partner Member 2018

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    My wife got me a tank for Christmas and I set it up as a fresh water tank and was happy with it and then the itch came and 2 months later got another tank and started a reef. My wife asked the obvious question..... why didn't you set up a reef with the tank I got you? Lol. Gave her some answer that made her shake her head and now I have a reef tank and a freshwater with discus and angels :)
    Told her she was an enabler and she told me I was full of
     
  15. Ty Hamatake

    Ty Hamatake Hi, my name is Ty and I'm a Reefer... R2R Supporter Build Thread Contributor Partner Member 2018

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    Ha ha, enough that she's occasionally willing to do this if something goes wrong while I'm away.

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    mdbannister Ahh...the Reef Life Staff Member Team R2R R2R Supporter R2R Excellence Award Photo of the Month Award Article Contributor Build Thread Contributor Partner Member 2018

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    Ha! She's a keeper for sure!
     
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    Salty1962 Wrasse and SPS Lover R2R Supporter Reef Squad R2R Excellence Award Build Thread Contributor Partner Member 2018

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    My wife calls it my other Life but she admits she loves the beauty as much as I do. She is always asking questions about the tank and livestock. She's for the most part supportive.
     
  18. Lovemyreef2015

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    My husband and I @DSCreef are in this hobby together. We love reefing and enjoy going to reef stores and looking at what our next coral will be (or clam). Sorry hun, beat you to the post ;)
     
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  19. Crabs Mcjones

    Crabs Mcjones The Gif-A-Nator R2R Supporter Reef Squad Leader R2R Excellence Award Reef Tank 365 Article Contributor Build Thread Contributor Partner Member 2018

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    Any chance you'd like to trade? :D
     
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    My husband helps out with electrical & plumbing when I need it, and can take care of things when I travel. He loves the fish & inverts, doesn't care at all about corals. Overall, interested & encouraging, but he definitely wouldn't have a tank if I wasn't here. :)
     
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