Wow... interesting read. a lot of personal thoughts and feelings in these responses. Glad to see the community reaching out and hope what ever the OP comes to decide works out no matter how tough.
As for myself. 38 yo and worked my butt off most of my life and screwed up a lot too, but i own my own home in SoCal, all the toys and fun stuff it comes with living the single life as i have for past 15 years almost. So yah, no kids and no real plan to ever go down that road but if it happened.... i would man up as so many have and try to enjoy the ride where ever it took us. Easier said than done of course but that's the way i have live my life thus far so why would i stop just because of a kid? Make the kid part of the fun, turn the struggles in to triumphs and the low time into success stories?
Again though, great to see all those giving some thoughts. Good Luck joe0813!
As for myself. 38 yo and worked my butt off most of my life and screwed up a lot too, but i own my own home in SoCal, all the toys and fun stuff it comes with living the single life as i have for past 15 years almost. So yah, no kids and no real plan to ever go down that road but if it happened.... i would man up as so many have and try to enjoy the ride where ever it took us. Easier said than done of course but that's the way i have live my life thus far so why would i stop just because of a kid? Make the kid part of the fun, turn the struggles in to triumphs and the low time into success stories?
Again though, great to see all those giving some thoughts. Good Luck joe0813!