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There was a saying that, "Time will console us". When its coming to the loss of loved and near ones, I can feel you and realise that its difficult. But almighty has allowed us to still live in this world for good reason and a cause. Let the time bring you to that good reason faster and sooner so that it could reduce your pain and sufferings.
My prayers will always be there for you.
 
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Joe, that was very moving and I cannot imagine your pain. I am glad you share stuff so that it might help you heal even a tiny bit.

Congratulations on meeting Geddy Lee, once in a lifetime moment for sure.

In my heart always, Kelly and Joe
 

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Hey Joe,

I have enjoyed reading your posts. It looks like you were able to enjoy your time in Banff! Have you been there before? I am about 2 hours south of Calgary and don't get to Banff near enough!
 
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I hope you're doing well Joe.

It's a sad day for us Rush fans. While the band will now never play again their music will always live on. RIP Neil Peart

I read some of this thread a while ago and never posted. I'm going to go back and re-read it tonight listening to one of my favorite bands.
 
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I hope you're doing well Joe.

It's a sad day for us Rush fans. While the band will now never play again their music will always live on. RIP Neil Peart

I read some of this thread a while ago and never posted. I'm going to go back and re-read it tonight listening to one of my favorite bands.

Hi Anit, I've had better days the passing of Neil has come as a complete shock, I feel as though I have lost one of my best friends.

I've been listening and watching since I received the news earlier today.
 

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This is my first time seeing this thread and I’ve been reading on here for years. No thread has moved me this much and I’ve never seen so much love in a thread before. This whole thing should be made into a book. There is so much more beauty here than only that beautiful tank.
 

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Hi Anit, I've had better days the passing of Neil has come as a complete shock, I feel as though I have lost one of my best friends.

I've been listening and watching since I received the news earlier today.
Came as a total shock to me too. Everyone around him did a great job keeping this quiet and respect his wishes. It just makes me sad that in Neil's case, that a man who had to deal with so much pain and loss in life had to go out in that way.

While I haven't seen them live as many times as you have. Of the hundreds of concerts I've been to they are one of the few I've seen more than 5 times. I was 6yrs old when 2112 came out and I've been hooked since. Their music influenced a lot of my youth.

I didn't get into the hobby until 2015 and see this thread till well after that. I truly hope your doing ok. Whoever said time heals all wounds was full of it. It gets a little easier, yes, healed... don't know about that.
But as long as we're here the sun will rise tomorrow and we owe it to those that left before us to live the best we can with the time we have left.

Adam
 
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I am a Widower - I am now in my 7th year. Here we are in the midst of uncertainty due to Covid-19. Who would have ever thought that this is where our country would be at this moment? I never dreamed of this kind of thing happening in our lifetime. It does, however, make it easy to see how quickly our normal can become abnormal, how our expectation of life continuing as we have always known it can just stop in its tracks. So much has changed, yet so much has stayed the same. It’s the life of contradictions.

It’s the anniversary of my beloved passing, why am I not on a plane chasing the sun to some far-off destination, or getting my home ready for a visit from my dearest friend. I want to be sitting in Epcot at our favorite spot overlooking the gondolas drinking a glass of wine remembering all of our wonderful years we spent together. Not alone in this alien world that was once home. Strange, isn't it? How our normal, everyday routines just ceased. Driving by restaurants and non-essential stores and seeing empty parking lots, most of our simple pleasures, closed or canceled. It takes time to make those adjustments, eventually, your mind begins to grasp the reality of the situation and you can then begin to cope with such quick and drastic changes. Sadly, it isn't like that with grief.

I remember early in my grief journey, I longed for the day when the pain wasn't so intense. I saw others who had been traveling the journey longer than me and I almost envied where they were in processing their grief. I knew that they were still hurting, but I could hardly function without crying, they could at least manage social situations without spontaneously breaking down. I never thought that I would get to the point they were at, but here I am. Don’t get me wrong I still have my days, but overall, I am in a better place than I was a few years ago. It has, however, taken a lot of hard work to get here because the only way to heal is to feel, to cry, and to let yourself hurt.

I know everyone says there is a grieving process that everyone must go through to keep moving on with their lives. I believe we are given memories as a gift, even the sad ones. I believe part of God’s plan is to not simply move past the grieving cycle. I think we are supposed to always reside in a part of that process. A place where we can linger a while and hold onto all those moments we had, and some not meant to be. Memories are not always pleasant, but they should be cherished just the same. We always have those precious recollections to hold on to. Hold tight to them. I have learned to keep both the good ones with the bad ones close to my heart, for as long as I can.

I am able to see things more clearly. It's so much easier to get your bearings once the fog has cleared. I stepped out on a limb and confessed my anger towards God. I mean, seven years ago, I felt as if I had lost my faith. Lost probably isn't the right word because I couldn't be mad at God if I didn't believe in him. I think what made me feel like I had lost my faith was my inability to talk to God. I couldn't bring myself to pray and when I heard people talk about how good God was, I would get even angrier. You see, I had asked God to deliver Kelly from her illness while all the time, I had the expectation that Kelly’s deliverance would be recovery, not death! I had placed my expectations on God's answer.

Once I realized that I had the answer already played out in my mind, that I knew how God was going to answer my prayer, I realized that I hadn't truly trusted Him with my prayer. I think I had learned to equate believing or having expectations with having faith. The problem with my thinking was that I hadn't distinguished the difference between believing and expecting. It wasn't that I truly believed that Kelly would be delivered through her illness; I had expected that to be the outcome. Expectation means the degree of probability that something will occur. Belief means to have confidence in the truth or the reliability of something. While faith and expectation can work together, the problem comes when we expect that God is going to answer our prayer a certain way. It was my expectation upon His answer that led to my anger. I am slowly working my way back to God. I'm not all the way there yet, but I do feel that reconciliation taking place.

Wherever you are in your grief, it's normal to feel what you're feeling. It just takes time to work through the pain, anger, denial, shock, depression, sadness, exhaustion, and guilt. It's not wrong to be where you are, it's just where you are.

Be gentle with yourself and give yourself some grace. Place no expectations on yourself for healing, place no expectations on God. Just be where you are, feel what you feel, and you will make it through the forest. Eventually.

In the end, nothing is ever so lost, that it cannot be found again, and no tears have ever been cried, that weren't worth the joy that came before.

You will be okay. I promise.

With all my love, remembering you today and every day, My Love I miss you dearly. – Forever a Husband
 

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I have followed this thread and your loss on this thread for a long time. Thank you for the message! It took me a long time to understand that God is not some divine butler who serves me rather He is someone who I serve. My prayer is your will be done not mine.
Relationships are the most valuable thing in the world. Without relationships, life would be worthless. I have had lots of people close to me pass on and it’s devastating. Fortunately I have a relationship with Christ and He is eternal and I will trust him in all things even unto death. I simply do not know how people cope with this broken world and do not seek after the Lord.

God bless you man!
 

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I just read 39 pages of a sad sad story beautiful tank sorry for your loss the memory of loved ones are ones to cherish the natural lighting is something I have never seen and truly am intrigued
 

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