I received a box of rocks today.

[NY_Caveman]

I better begin dating again if my anemone starts appealing to me. LOL!

 

[Katrina71]

Your clown has already spoken for her.

 

[NY_Caveman]

Maybe if I get a second clown the anemone will be happy for the love that ensues. I saw a local LFS has some Spocinctus in and I am considering. Seems a polyamorous relationship like that may work well in my life.

 

[Raege]

Nem is looking great nice recovery it’s having!
You have two great kids Brian. The only thing to judge a person by is their character and how they treat others I think you nailed it as a parent from what you’ve shared of them something to be proud of and never any shame. The world can and is cruel but with love,understanding,support and guidance of the the folks in our lives who truly matter (family and friends) kindness and beauty will win the day.

 

[NY_Caveman]

Nem is looking great nice recovery it’s having!
You have two great kids Brian. The only thing to judge a person by is their character and how they treat others I think you nailed it as a parent from what you’ve shared of them something to be proud of and never any shame. The world can and is cruel but with love,understanding,support and guidance of the the folks in our lives who truly matter (family and friends) kindness and beauty will win the day.

Thanks, Ray!

 

[Sallstrom]

Is that a vagimone?

We had this Alcyonium coral in our exhibit. Might be a male colony

Glad things are going well @NY_Caveman , with the family and the tank.
Have you considered an urchin to speed up the grazing?

 

[NY_Caveman]

We had this Alcyonium coral in our exhibit. Might be a male colony

Glad things are going well @NY_Caveman , with the family and the tank.
Have you considered an urchin to speed up the grazing?

Ha! Nice coral. Thanks for the kind words.

I would love an urchin. My concern is all of the rockwork is loose as are many of the corals. The loose rocks mostly though. I have considered a sea hare, but that also has concerns. I am in no rush. The Trochus and Ceriths are getting the job done slowly. Staying patient. I have no money for corals now anyway, so it kind of works out, LOL.

 

[NY_Caveman]

@Rakie I thought you were wise when you said (paraphrasing) our tanks want to self destruct. It made me think which is one of my favorite things to do. Lately, I felt like the variables that affected the tank were on me. The opposite. As if the tank would have been better off without me.

You will all be happy to know the tank and I are on the same page now. I actually feel like it is working toward, returning to, its equilibrium. It wants to thrive again.

I never felt through the decline like the tank wanted to self destruct. I guess the thing that struck me is I did feel that way when the tank was thriving. I thought I may kill it, but the tank actually wants to survive.

 

[tdlawdo]

Why is nobody planning a trip down to Knoxville for our big coral expo? 15 vendors.

When is that! I have a business trip to Nashville in September maybe a side trip is in order!

 

[tdlawdo]

I think you are correct. I guess I should start calling it “she.” Lots of gender pronoun confusion in my life lately anyway. She is looking much better for certain.

Let her, she, him, they pick their own pronoun...or maybe she has and you just haven’t listened reef = life. Life = reef?

 

[tdlawdo]

I really do not know why I hesitated in that previous post. It made me feel a little ashamed. I guess I feel like the user base here is pretty conservative. Heck, so am I (remember, I grew up upstate NY, not NYC). I am also very open minded.

The truth is I have a son. Meet my son, Logan.

Logan was born a female and we named her Katie. When Katie was 2 she said, “When I grow up I am going to be a boy.” We thought it was cute and she was certainly a tomboy. A decade later he is still saying the same thing and we are listening to him.

I love my son very much. Even if I call him “she” sometimes he knows I am trying and I support him 100%. I said this before and I reiterate it now. It is not about changing sexes. it is about being who one truly is.

Well said! Love is love is love!! We are who we are and others perceptions don’t change the fiber within. You da DAD!!!

 

[NY_Caveman]

Well said! Love is love is love!! We are who we are and others perceptions don’t change the fiber within. You da DAD!!!

Thank you, brother.

 

[Katrina71]

When is that! I have a business trip to Nashville in September maybe a side trip is in order!

Smoky mountain coral expo. I think Sept. 28. If you come, I'll snag you some coral from people I know.

 

[NY_Caveman]

It has been a while since I posted a full tank shot.

Here is the tank at its worst one month ago

Here is the tank today

You can see the Cyanobacteria has all but gone away. All that is left is some straggly hair algae and the snails are taking care of that. There was even coralline remaining under it all.

 

[Katrina71]

I see some spots for coral!

 

[NY_Caveman]

I see some spots for coral!

Several spots. I need to clear out some skeletons. I saw an asterina star today which gives me hope I still have some mini stars alive in there.

 

[Crabby48]

Love those little stars. Have you seen any worms?

 

[NY_Caveman]

Love those little stars. Have you seen any worms?

Not yet, but I did see some new baby snails.

 

[najer]

@Rakie I thought you were wise when you said (paraphrasing) our tanks want to self destruct. It made me think which is one of my favorite things to do. Lately, I felt like the variables that affected the tank were on me. The opposite. As if the tank would have been better off without me.

You will all be happy to know the tank and I are on the same page now. I actually feel like it is working toward, returning to, its equilibrium. It wants to thrive again.

I never felt through the decline like the tank wanted to self destruct. I guess the thing that struck me is I did feel that way when the tank was thriving. I thought I may kill it, but the tank actually wants to survive.

I have no badges because I don't want any, maybe a few brushes with the r2r "law"!

I love how the tank is coming back to you, I call it considered neglect, the word "feel" made me smile, we all saw it before your issues, it is getting there!

 

[Rakie]

Yeah, left unchecked everything will self destruct, from heater malfunction to corals growing into one another, etc etc.

The idea is mostly to get people to think it's not always going to be smooth sailing. And that most tanks end in death