i'm not sure how polyp extension got branded as an automatic sign of happy corals.
To me it seems just as likely that it indicates the coral is starving to death – it's a feeding response not a happiness response.

There's a fairly strong trend of when somebody says their parameters are "fine", but doesn't post them that there's actually something off. Maybe not in your case but if you could post your parameters, we might see something that you're not thinking of.
IMO, the most likely things are phosphates too low (((inaccessible))) and, related, inadequate flow. Nutrients, feeding and flow are all interconnected, of course. i'm still guessing until we get more info from you, but a likely scenario to explain why these would be issues even though you don't think they are is that you are having success. A side effect of success in a stony coral tank is that your corals grow – this causes more flow blockage in the tank the more they grow. Every coral has a downstream "flow shadow" which grows bigger and bigger as the coral grows.
Just some thoughts… Get back to us with water test results. A full tank picture that shows your lighting and flow sources may also prove useful.