I think the enhancement proposed by @revhtree in the quote below will address the issues that both of you have with the new forum. I too did not care for it at first. However, after a little thought it is kind of nice to be able to follow only the things that I could feasibly use. I don't need to know every time someone posts a 200g aquarium setup for $5k or when sumps are posted. With this new category system I can weed those threads out and follow smaller items that might be useful to my setup.
Long story short... give it a little time and you might decide you like the new way better. Most of us have a hard time with change! haha If not it has been promised that there will soon be a tab to browse all of the dry goods threads on one page. Rome was not built in a day!
I get that to an extent. But I would at least like to receive the notifications when new things are posted which I’m currently not even with having the “watch” button selected.