Thankfully mine are still small right now so it's not painful yet. I'm hoping she warms up to me eventually like yours or else its gonna be painful as she grows. My male loves me, anytime I go to the tank he gets right in front of me kinda like he is showing off blocking my view of anything I'm trying to look at then you got the witch lurking in the back corner just waiting for the opportunity to attack. Unfortunately I have a feeling she's just always going to be this way but at least for now I can laugh about it.used to have a problem with my clowns just like this. After many (very painful) months of hand feeding them they realized I am a giver of gifts, not a monster they must protect their precious Duncan from. No more problems now!