My Dad passed 18 days before my birthday, so I know how you see it, and I'll never forget it. And he passed on his big brother's birthday, so that was very much out there too.I completely understand, I lost my Dad at 59, the day before my birthday. It was devastating to say the least. I still miss him 2 years later but I know he is celebrating in Heaven. I will pray for you and your family.
Family was trying to say something about my birthday, and it was hard to ask them to ignore it 'cause I know they were trying hard to comfort me.