My entire life I have wanted to become a cop. I am halfway through the process in VA beach and now it's becoming reality of the life I'll be able to live.
I have done well in the past (130k+) currently my new career is around 80k with room to advance. I currently reside in Jersey. I don't love what I'm doing, and feel that the career of a cop is what I was meant to do. However, now I'm starting to worry how I will be able to afford a house, marry my gf and start a family on 45k. My gf is a teacher and with her income down in VA we would gross about 85k.
I understand my life style will have to change such as I'll have to say good by to my $520 month bmw lease, along with other things. My main objective is to live comfortable, own a nice house and start a family. I do not want to live paycheck to paycheck and not be able to save and provide my family the life they will deserve.
So my question to anyone out there that are currently in the position I might take on in 6 months is, what kind of life do you live?
I understand with overtime and moving up in the ranks I'll make more but that is very far down the road and for a while I'll be making as much as I did when I was 23 years old (29 now).
Big problem is if i make this move, my girlfriend will be leaving a teacher's postion here in jersey and if we ever came back, her chances of getting back into a school will be very very very very hard. So I have a lot on my shoulders. She is backing me up 100% and will be by my side, but this past week I feel like I am a million pounds.
Do I stay in jersey, stay close to family and stay in a career I'm not crazy about and live ok. Or do I move, leave family behind, leave a good job, take my gf away from a great postion and pursue law enforcement. [emoji29]
I have done well in the past (130k+) currently my new career is around 80k with room to advance. I currently reside in Jersey. I don't love what I'm doing, and feel that the career of a cop is what I was meant to do. However, now I'm starting to worry how I will be able to afford a house, marry my gf and start a family on 45k. My gf is a teacher and with her income down in VA we would gross about 85k.
I understand my life style will have to change such as I'll have to say good by to my $520 month bmw lease, along with other things. My main objective is to live comfortable, own a nice house and start a family. I do not want to live paycheck to paycheck and not be able to save and provide my family the life they will deserve.
So my question to anyone out there that are currently in the position I might take on in 6 months is, what kind of life do you live?
I understand with overtime and moving up in the ranks I'll make more but that is very far down the road and for a while I'll be making as much as I did when I was 23 years old (29 now).
Big problem is if i make this move, my girlfriend will be leaving a teacher's postion here in jersey and if we ever came back, her chances of getting back into a school will be very very very very hard. So I have a lot on my shoulders. She is backing me up 100% and will be by my side, but this past week I feel like I am a million pounds.
Do I stay in jersey, stay close to family and stay in a career I'm not crazy about and live ok. Or do I move, leave family behind, leave a good job, take my gf away from a great postion and pursue law enforcement. [emoji29]
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