How much can one family take

[riche]

Not to sound like Debbie downer but How much stuff can be thrown at my family.

In the past month My wife was laid off, she had a great lead on a new job and Found out Tuesday that they gave it to someone else. Her unemployment was delayed but we finally got it.

Well we have been thru a lot since we have been married ( this past Saturday was our 12 year anniversary)

So we always just say we can weather the storm, well Tuesday after she found out she didnt get the job we said we will go to my 8th grade sons football game and enjoy watching him play and not worry about this set back.


Well the second play of the first game my son was double covered( he is a defensive end) and he fell and when he did his wrist bent under and then some kid fell on him, well he came out of the game and after the first quarter we were on our way to the ER.

He has a hairline fracture in the small bone and a buckle fracture in the big bone and has a cast from his hand to right below his elbow.

He can still play since they doubled the thickness of the cast and his coach is making a pad for it, but he is still bummed as its his right arm and he is right handed.

I go to the Dr next Friday as I'm looking at another knee surgery and most likely a elbow surgery.

If I get them done this year that will be 5 surgeries this year alone ( I have had 14 surgeries related to my 17 ft fall back in Nov of 2006

I am a big firm believer in god and I also believe that he only throws out what you can handle but Dang this is getting hard.

I have a hard time dealing with the issue that I cant work because of my injuries and long term issues and being raised to provide for your family its hard. Then the wife getting laid off and this day and age if you don't know someone its hard to get in some where.

The kids are understanding and know that they cant have everything they ask for unlike some kids out there, my kids appreciate the things they have.

I have to say my tank is the only thing that keeps me sane it has helped with pain management and now a stress relief.

I always say that there are people out there who have it worst then us, but after all this I wonder if there is light at the end of the tunnel?


Thanks for letting my rant

Rich

 

[LParker480]

Well sorry to hear about your misfortunes. I'm sure in this tread you'll hear all the cliché, "when one door closes another opens" or "God gives his toughest battles to his toughest soldiers...". But realistically you don't want to hear any of that. Realistically, as a dad, a husband, a head of household, you're trying to maintain composure and strength and hold it all together. Being the "man" puts a lot of pressure to provide not only financially, but mentally as well. I've been there bud. My wife and I brought home our twins and 8 mos later I was laid off. the situation presented problems to his new dad that had never even crossed my mind. Long story short, it all has gone better than imagined and I'm very fortunate for everything.

However, it sounds like the most important things to you are in line and that's what matters most. Your faith and your family will get you through a trying time. Your current situation is also a valuable lesson to your children that not all kids will have the opportunity to learn. Its not the most idealistic lesson to teach, but its experiences in this so called life that help us to better prepare and endure the road ahead. Hats off to you for even posting this vulnerable moment in your life. Some people are so overcome with pride, that they can't show a weakness or even admit to certain complications. Things have a funny way of working themselves out. And my clichéd quote is that even though you can't see or understand Gods plan, doesn't mean he doesn't have one for you. Keep your head up!

 

[nervousmonkey]

There is no appropriate advice I can give, other than, you can make it brother. You will, you always will. In a hundred of these times you will survive, because of your family. It is hard, but when you wake up in the morning I know that your first thoughts are of your family, and you get up and perform as you do because of them, and when you leave work, your only thoughts are of seeing your family again.
If there is any advice I would give, it would be to pick one night a week to have a family time. You or your wife chooses the topic and let family discuss.. Look at your wife for four minutes, and she you, for that time, and time it. You will be crying with her by the end, and she you, and you will become stronger.
I know I said I wouldn't give advice, but I just say what has worked for my family when just survival seemed hard. You can make the entire viewpoint different.

I am praying for you and your family. God be with you Rich.

 

[Fourstars]

Chin up! Trust me, it could be a lot worse. If there is a god, I doubt she would be in the pain and suffering game. Just be thankful for what you have, and that your not suffering in some third world hell hole.

 

[justingraham]

Hey Man U said ur a believer in God well just know that God only gives hardest battles to his strongest soldiers. When this is all over and done with u and ur family will be so strong because of it. Keep ur head up things will get better

 

[Pugfishluv3]

I know nothing I can say will make you feel better. I suffer from a version of bipolar and other health problems. It does get better hun. Sometimes things happen for the best, I know you can't see that right now but one day you will. I always think of a homeless vet. or someone going through cancer treatment (like my poor mom). As long as I have a roof over my head and family doesn't go hungry I'm good.

 

[Pagerone]

Not to sound like Debbie downer but How much stuff can be thrown at my family.

In the past month My wife was laid off, she had a great lead on a new job and Found out Tuesday that they gave it to someone else. Her unemployment was delayed but we finally got it.

Well we have been thru a lot since we have been married ( this past Saturday was our 12 year anniversary)

So we always just say we can weather the storm, well Tuesday after she found out she didnt get the job we said we will go to my 8th grade sons football game and enjoy watching him play and not worry about this set back.


Well the second play of the first game my son was double covered( he is a defensive end) and he fell and when he did his wrist bent under and then some kid fell on him, well he came out of the game and after the first quarter we were on our way to the ER.

He has a hairline fracture in the small bone and a buckle fracture in the big bone and has a cast from his hand to right below his elbow.

He can still play since they doubled the thickness of the cast and his coach is making a pad for it, but he is still bummed as its his right arm and he is right handed.

I go to the Dr next Friday as I'm looking at another knee surgery and most likely a elbow surgery.

If I get them done this year that will be 5 surgeries this year alone ( I have had 14 surgeries related to my 17 ft fall back in Nov of 2006

I am a big firm believer in god and I also believe that he only throws out what you can handle but Dang this is getting hard.

I have a hard time dealing with the issue that I cant work because of my injuries and long term issues and being raised to provide for your family its hard. Then the wife getting laid off and this day and age if you don't know someone its hard to get in some where.

The kids are understanding and know that they cant have everything they ask for unlike some kids out there, my kids appreciate the things they have.

I have to say my tank is the only thing that keeps me sane it has helped with pain management and now a stress relief.

I always say that there are people out there who have it worst then us, but after all this I wonder if there is light at the end of the tunnel?


Thanks for letting my rant

Rich

Sorry to hear but I thought this was a reef hobby forum I kind of come here to forget about my problems everyday stuff and just enjoy they hobby so not to be mean but why would you post this on here

 

[ngvu1]

I'm truly sorry to hear your multiple bad news my friend. It always seems like when things go wrong they all go wrong at the same time and at a time you least expected. I am NOT good with comforting people, but any day above ground is a good day. Hang in there and never give up without a fight. You will make it and your family will make it. We don't know what a good day is like unless we have had bad ones right?
I wish your family and you the best of luck!

 

[Salty1962]

We'll keep you in our prayers! GOD is great and he has a plan or all of us, walk in your FAITH!

 

[aaron23]

im glad that the tank is keeping you sane i'm sure your load will be lightened soon enough.

 

[riche]

Thanks for all the kind words prayers and good thoughts. I'm a tuff person and no there is worst things out there, just need to vent for a minute, lace up the boots and keep going.

As for the guy who asked why I posted this here, this the lounge and I figured i could post something and just that.

If you have a issue with me posting this here I guess I don't have problems right now because someone that is going to comment on someone posting something there going thru worst times then me and need to take a long hard look in the mirror.


Again thanks to all the POSITIVE comments

Rich

 

[jgvergo]

You will get through it and prosper. I had a similar stretch. Sometimes bad things happen in bunches, but life has a way of evening out. Stay focused on a happier future. Better times are coming!

 

[aaron23]

we're here for each other, why else are we on a forum.

 

[aaron23]

Sorry to hear but I thought this was a reef hobby forum I kind of come here to forget about my problems everyday stuff and just enjoy they hobby so not to be mean but why would you post this on here

if you dont like it dont read it. simple

 

[jgvergo]

we're here for each other, why else are we on a forum.

Many of us benefit from "aquarium therapy". It's only natural to occasional share the root causes of the need for the therapy!:)