not dating advice... but...

[garra671]

so, ive had girlfriends and such but ive never been particularly good at catching hints... or noticing how a girl feels or when she drops hints etc etc etc.... so heres the background, Im in college for aircraft mechanics; its a fairly small school (literally only 3 girls in the entire school of about 60 students) first day of class i sat down in a random seat, 2nd day of class same deal, third day of class i sat in front of her and then just spontanously moved next to her whilst there were multiple open seats still available, she didnt say anything but that was about 3 weeks ago... since then we've both continously sat next to one another as well she now sits with me in our other class as well, and talk regularly in class (ive yet to ask her for her number).. anyways, ive been slowly (im shy) getting closer and closer just kind of testing the waters, (letting her play a game on my phone and helping her through it by pressing the buttons for her while she holds it... doing lab work with one another (physically doing stuff together having to touch hands and such...) so i asked her to go with me somewhere over the weekend (a motorcycle meet-up we both ride) and she said she was busy with work but next week she'll be free and then every weekend after that she will be busy with work (shes changing jobs). as well she seems kind of... playful.. when we were both leaving class she tried to race me when i had my car and she had her bike.

i just wanted to put all of that info out there, and see if maybe anyone has some pointers and such for me. If we didn't have class together i would of asked her out directly by now, but i just dont want to make things weird if she ends up saying no.

 

[hinovak]

Fortunately and unfortunately I have allot of dating experience. I would say go for it, stop beating around the bush and directly ask her out. If she makes up some excuse, act like you don't care in the slightest, and seem like you have moved on. If she has some interest in you, she will eventually cave and come back around. If not, you lost nothing by giving it a shot, and at least you will have the satisfaction of knowing it is not going to work, and you can move on to other things...the longer you stay in the friend zone, the more difficult it becomes to get out, you will always be her if everything else fails in my life, he will be there for me...the problem is, she knows you will be waiting on her, so you are no longer mysterious and something she wants...so most likely never let her gaurd down for you...we all want what we can't have, and we care nothing about what we already have. Think about it in collecting corals, we all want that new piece with the cool name. Go for it early on, if she does not bite, save yourself the pain and anguish, and move on to someone that does care about you. Hope this helps.

 

[hinovak]

By directly asking her out, I mean on a actual date, not something that can be taken as we are just friends..

 

[KSReefing]

I don't think I could possibly agree more. The longer the you wait the worse it'll turn out. The 3 to 60 ratio is definitely not a good one because the girls know they have pretty much have more to choose from. Get your answer early on and move on if it doesn't work out. Since you know she said she was free next weekend go for a date. Dinner not lunch. What hinovak said something that is a date. Don't say coffee or lunch.

Good Luck!

 

[MrDJeep123]

So you've known her a month thereabouts? I'd say get to know her better. Let the excitement and feelings of admiration build. No need to aggressively pursue her. From what I've seen of things lately, and this just a general observation, but dating seems to be a lost art.

Good luck with your pursuits and enjoy the time you spend with her regardless of what happens.

 

[TDTA1181]

Put your big boy pants on & ask the woman out. Lol, the absolute worst think that could happen is she says no. If that happens, put a security code on ure phone so she can't play games on it anymore, lol. Even if that's not the outcome you want to hear at least you know how she feels a/b you. Old saying is "many more fish in the sea" & it's 100% true. Life's too short to sit around & worry a/b the "what ifs".

 

[Howard1234a]

so, ive had girlfriends and such but ive never been particularly good at catching hints... or noticing how a girl feels or when she drops hints etc etc etc.... so heres the background, Im in college for aircraft mechanics; its a fairly small school (literally only 3 girls in the entire school of about 60 students) first day of class i sat down in a random seat, 2nd day of class same deal, third day of class i sat in front of her and then just spontanously moved next to her whilst there were multiple open seats still available, she didnt say anything but that was about 3 weeks ago... since then we've both continously sat next to one another as well she now sits with me in our other class as well, and talk regularly in class (ive yet to ask her for her number).. anyways, ive been slowly (im shy) getting closer and closer just kind of testing the waters, (letting her play a game on my phone and helping her through it by pressing the buttons for her while she holds it... doing lab work with one another (physically doing stuff together having to touch hands and such...) so i asked her to go with me somewhere over the weekend (a motorcycle meet-up we both ride) and she said she was busy with work but next week she'll be free and then every weekend after that she will be busy with work (shes changing jobs). as well she seems kind of... playful.. when we were both leaving class she tried to race me when i had my car and she had her bike.

i just wanted to put all of that info out there, and see if maybe anyone has some pointers and such for me. If we didn't have class together i would of asked her out directly by now, but i just dont want to make things weird if she ends up saying no.

Typical engineer... The simplest answer is the right one. Ask her to go for a ride. Nature will take care of the rest. If you have to be analytical; it is a simple probability. If you do not ask = no result. If you do there is a 50% chance. That is a lot better than zero. If she says yes; you are done. If she says no; find another girl and repeat the process. Each time you are that much closer to yes. It is the law of large numbers. You also can meet a girl outside of the college of engineering. Basically you are an animal, so is She. Don't overthink it; just do it.

 

[TDTA1181]

Typical engineer... The simplest answer is the right one. Ask her to go for a ride. Nature will take care of the rest. If you have to be analytical; it is a simple probability. If you do not ask = no result. If you do there is a 50% chance. That is a lot better than zero. If she says yes; you are done. If she says no; find another girl and repeat the process. Each time you are that much closer to yes. It is the law of large numbers. You also can meet a girl outside of the college of engineering. Basically you are an animal, so is She. Don't overthink it; just do it.

Well,

Typical engineer... The simplest answer is the right one. Ask her to go for a ride. Nature will take care of the rest. If you have to be analytical; it is a simple probability. If you do not ask = no result. If you do there is a 50% chance. That is a lot better than zero. If she says yes; you are done. If she says no; find another girl and repeat the process. Each time you are that much closer to yes. It is the law of large numbers. You also can meet a girl outside of the college of engineering. Basically you are an animal, so is She. Don't overthink it; just do it.

Lol, that's certainly one way to put it.

 

[aaron23]

Longer you wait the harder it becomes to make it more than platonic. Take the risk or be friend zoned. The worst that can happen is you get told no. Who cares in the overall scheme of things that's called life if she says no she's not worth your time either.

 

[garra671]

@hinovak @aaron23 @Howard1234a @MrDJeep123 @KSReefing @TDTA1181

Well this weekend is already out since she told me she was working this weekend. But she had said she was free next weekend, comeMonday I'm just going to ask her straight forward; "you wanna ride up to Alice's this weekend and get some dinner or something?" Alice's = motorcycle meet up near SF. And if she says yes I'll get her number as well.

 

[garra671]

@hinovak @aaron23 @Howard1234a @MrDJeep123 @KSReefing @TDTA1181

Well this weekend is already out since she told me she was working this weekend. But she had said she was free next weekend, comeMonday I'm just going to ask her straight forward; "you wanna ride up to Alice's this weekend and get some dinner or something?" Alice's = motorcycle meet up near SF. And if she says yes I'll get her number as well.

Maybe I'm misinterpreting but I think I have a fairly decent chance.. Yesterday when we were doing our lab work we were working with safety wiring (steel wire used to hold down nuts and bolts and such) and me and her were twisting on them and it snapped and it was pretty jagged at the end of it and I'm a bit weird.. And said "you could slice someone's jugular with that thing" and she said " yeh you could" and I ran it across my neck and I said "try it" and she did but not in the correct motion so I took it from her and ran it across her throat.. I know I'm weird ASF but I unno think I'm reading too much into ****?

 

[hinovak]

Try to stop analyzing the situation. It will get you in trouble. Simplify it, she likes you, or she does not. She is giving out the right signals, capitalize on it now before you hit the dreaded friend zone...

 

[garra671]

Try to stop analyzing the situation. It will get you in trouble. Simplify it, she likes you, or she does not. She is giving out the right signals, capitalize on it now before you hit the dreaded friend zone...

I try not to read into things but it's just how I am hell if I didn't read Into things I wouldn't of posted in the first place. But I figure if she would let me touch her throat like that. There is at least somethin there.

 

[vertigo01]

@hinovak @aaron23 @Howard1234a @MrDJeep123 @KSReefing @TDTA1181

Well this weekend is already out since she told me she was working this weekend. But she had said she was free next weekend, comeMonday I'm just going to ask her straight forward; "you wanna ride up to Alice's this weekend and get some dinner or something?" Alice's = motorcycle meet up near SF. And if she says yes I'll get her number as well.

I may be a bit old fashioned but here is what I would do.
If you want to get to know her on a more personal basis, I would suggest skipping Alice's and go on a real date. One that offers the 2 of you a chance to get to know one another in a more intimate atmosphere without all of the distractions. Dinner and a movie of her choosing or dinner and a walk with a romantic aura.
Open door's for her, let her order first and compliment her. If she dig's you, she will let you know by making time for a second date if she wants to keep things platonic she won't.

The more you try to read into her action's the more confused and frustrated you will become.
JMHO

 

[hinovak]

I try not to read into things but it's just how I am hell if I didn't read Into things I wouldn't of posted in the first place. But I figure if she would let me touch her throat like that. There is at least somethin there.

Haha, im telling you this from my experience and hopefully teaching, it took me awhile to learn the way, I read into everything. Anytime I have started over analyzing a girl I like, I always ended up screwing things up more, because you get nervous, and you over think, and then you can't be yourself.

 

[oscar garcia]

Just stalk her on social media and follow her every move
Creep her out to the point where she'll either call the cops or just ask what is up with you then y'all can start a normal conversation

 

[oscar garcia]

*sarcastic

 

[DannyB]

Ask her "what are you doing this friday night?" her answer is "nothing" she has just said yes to you, if she says she is braiding her arm hair she has said "not a chance". Watch out for a valid reason though such as work.

 

[garra671]

Ask her "what are you doing this friday night?" her answer is "nothing" she has just said yes to you, if she says she is braiding her arm hair she has said "not a chance". Watch out for a valid reason though such as work.

That's what she said she was doing this weekend but she said she is free next weekend so I'm taking that with a grain of salt right now since she may have just been being nice but I'll ask again on Monday or later in the week so it's not planned a week prior to it happening

 

[Pete polyp]

All you have to do is show her pictures of your tank and she'll be putty in your hands. Chicks love tanks!