I'm currently setting up a 40G breeder with a 20G sump, I have live sand and dry rock. I've seen copepods mentioned multiple times as a way to combat (and maybe even avoid) the ugly stage, plus I want to get a mandarin dragonet in the future and they need copepods. I was planning on getting a few jars from Algae Barn, but when I went to order I saw they had a deal, buy 4 jars of galaxy pods get 4 free. So I put 8 jars of galaxy pods into my aquarium shortly after it cycled.
Cycle started on 12/9, copepods added on 12/19, and two clownfish added on 12/21, and other than a very faint bacterial bloom the tank looks clean. I almost wonder if it's too clean, I'd like to get a watchmen goby but I'm a little worried there's nothing for it to sift through the sand.
Still too early to really tell if I'll be able to skip the ugly stage but I'm excited to see what happens. Patience is the key, along with very small changes at a time!