Just how bad is Facebook really?

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I keep FB for family and friends. I find reefing to be way better here. My .02.
 
I never had a real account but one of my friends was addicted to FB. He posted just about everything that was happening in his life. His wife of 15 years was also following his page when one day an Ex Girl friend of his started posting some damaging info. Basically showing some overlap between the time he got married and the time they split up. Long and short was that he was in court six months later and she took him to the cleaners.

Sounds like he put too much of himself out there :p
 
Im old.
It all went down hill when IRC was automated so the common person could use it. Shawn and his Napster. Soon MySpace followed. Now we have Faceplant. As with any platform, the more people that use, it the more ipinions are posted.
While it can be a means to share info, so can a phone call and text messages and books, magazines.
Kinda like email. Half the population does not understand BCC.
Ok im done. Poke me with a fork
 
Sounds like he put too much of himself out there :p
Well he's putting a lot more of himself out there now. After closing the account for two years he reopened it like a Love letter to his ex wife. He got himself into great shape and started dating various fine looking younger women. He posts the pictures of himself with a new GF every few months doing everything from surfing to cuddling up with a hot girl by a fire place in the Alps. He openly says that he will never get married again.
 
He openly says that he will never get married again.

If you like to play, that's the only way to do it. I have a nephew who seems to be in this never-ending loop: He finds a great girl, she meets the family, they talk about getting married, and then he cheats on her. :eek: And he's so blatant about it that I think it's how he breaks up with them. There are weeks of ensuing drama afterwards, but then he finds another girl and does it all over again. :( I was like "whatever" about it when he was in his 20s, but he's now in his mid-30s. :eek:
 
The FB reefing shenanigans have just made us a stronger community! Snapshot of the past 10 years shows our growth.

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Was the R2R server(s) down for a few days there in 2013?

I mainly use FB for the Ocala Reef Club (also here on R2R) in order to relay meeting dates and information. Rarely do I browse through my feed or do anything else.
 
If you like to play, that's the only way to do it. I have a nephew who seems to be in this never-ending loop: He finds a great girl, she meets the family, they talk about getting married, and then he cheats on her. :eek: And he's so blatant about it that I think it's how he breaks up with them. There are weeks of ensuing drama afterwards, but then he finds another girl and does it all over again. :( I was like "whatever" about it when he was in his 20s, but he's now in his mid-30s. :eek:

Nah he has carried it to the next level, he is in his 40's and from the get go he lets them know that he is not interested in getting married etc. I think the fact that he is always into having a good time at expensive places is what attracts them in. His breakups are not pretty but the drama is lot less because they know what they are getting into from day one.

It's a pretty shallow existence but I kind of understand as I honestly saw his brown hair go grey in the six months leading up to the divorce. When i say she cleaned him out I mean, custody of the kids plus monthly payments, both houses that he owned plus most of his cash. He walked away with his company intact and that was what he really fought for. He knew she was going to get the kids so he gave up on that early on.
 
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I don't have FB, used to have Instagram but it took so much of my time and I had a come to jesus to realize I was addicted. I had a lot of followers and sponsors for the gun industry and it was very taxing on me from the demands and expectations that they had for me in terms of the sponsorship. when I had 2 sponsorships it was cool, but when I grew to 8-10 it was a different story. slowly I stopped renewing contracts, some on bad terms, but my time with my family is way more important than posting content for someone because I HAVE to rather than because I WANT to. it was a second job.
My wife has FB and she is part of 1 local reef club and it has been beneficial for the most part. On R2R there is no local club for the El Paso Texas Area, so the FB thing works for that, but this forum is my go to for information or questions. I have learned so much in the "less than a year" of being a member, and my son is learning so much too!

love this place!

Barnabie
 
Nah he has carried it to the next level, he is in his 40's and from the get go he lets them know that he is not interested in getting married etc. I think the fact that he is always into having a good time at expensive places is what attracts them in. His breakups are not pretty but the drama is lot less because they know what they are getting into from day one.

It's a pretty shallow existence but I kind of understand as I honestly saw his brown hair go grey in the six months leading up to the divorce. When i say she cleaned him out I mean, custody of the kids plus monthly payments, both houses that he owned plus most of his cash. He walked away with his company intact and that was what he really fought for. He knew she was going to get the kids so he gave up on that early on.

Must make good $$$ to pay alimony, child support + expensive girlfriends. I guess live vicariously through him, but don't ever try to be like him. :rolleyes:
 
Meh, there's bad info and advice everywhere. Facebook isn't any worse that R2R from what I've seen, and I'm a member of a few Facebook groups for reefing.
 
Meh, there's bad info and advice everywhere. Facebook isn't any worse that R2R from what I've seen, and I'm a member of a few Facebook groups for reefing.

+1 There's no mecca for information. Every place I visit I see both good & bad advice being dolled out (at least from my POV). The only difference is the quantity (but not necessarily the quality) of the information.
 
Meh, there's bad info and advice everywhere. Facebook isn't any worse that R2R from what I've seen, and I'm a member of a few Facebook groups for reefing.
valid point, but, its not the advice, per se, that makes Facebook terrible.
its the wide (often unintended) audience(s) that it reaches.
I wont go too in depth over this aspect, just know that its not just friendly do-gooders that "parooze" facebook.
Oftentimes, what one might consider useless "data" can actually be used against you.
Not a flat earther, or tin foil hat donner, but, the more open you are about things, you can bet, there is someone, somewhere, using, and storing that info.

For example, when our troops are posting pictures of themselves in Afghanistan, 'unfriendly entities' see that data, and can locate troop movements and guesstimate troop size and strength. Even if they aren't 'friended.'
Many commands have mandated that all actively deployed troops avoid all social media while in active areas.
Not that all of you are doing such a thing, just know, the world isn't full of like minded peaceful reefers.

Just be safe, and smart. That's all....
 
+1 There's no mecca for information. Every place I visit I see both good & bad advice being dolled out (at least from my POV). The only difference is the quantity (but not necessarily the quality) of the information.
At least here, people tag @Humblefish for fish rescues :D
 
The appeal of FB is it's a one-stop resource. You can talk reef, communicate with friends/family members, and keep tabs on what's going on in the neighborhood all in one place. :p People are lazy, and only want to use one platform for everything! In my home state the other forum is defunct (they turned it into a FB group), and yet people still don't want to access the one forum that's left standing. :(

Ah yes, the old "lazy" excuse that everyone likes to use when they don't understand things. The reality is that people use facebook not because they are lazy, rather they use it because consolidation saves time and energy for other things. The hate for Facebook in this forum is very offputting.
 
Was the R2R server(s) down for a few days there in 2013?

I mainly use FB for the Ocala Reef Club (also here on R2R) in order to relay meeting dates and information. Rarely do I browse through my feed or do anything else.

LOL I did not pick up the joke at first. It would seem that no one visted the site for a few days or weeks in 2013. I suspect they must have changed the forum software or something.
 
It is better to think kindly of people you meet every day than to know beyond a shadow of a doubt they are dumber than a sack of hammers.

My wife shows me the cute animal videos and the pics of the grandkids. That's enough for me.
 
I think it's more because Facebook is considered "competition".

That makes zero sense to me. They are completely different platforms that cater to different needs. I co-admin a large Facebook group and am working on building one from the ground up. It is a very different experience for both myself and members from a forum (which I have also run).
 

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