My wife moved my tank...
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blecki
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The trick is to get a tank big enough that a wife can't move it.
Mine said, after the money I've spent, if I got rid of it, she would divorce me. I'm like, that's cool honey, but, also sunk cost fallacy...
Mine said, after the money I've spent, if I got rid of it, she would divorce me. I'm like, that's cool honey, but, also sunk cost fallacy...
QuickrdenU
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All these people telling you to divorce your wife over a small aquarium must have terrible relationships. I know some of them are joking but still. Support your wife, it sounds like she was doing well in her mind, grit through it like men are supposed to, and move on.
In the end, fish tanks are easy to replace. A partner through this life and the next, not so much!
This is a very selfish hobby. Crap happens. Good luck dude! Enjoy life.
In the end, fish tanks are easy to replace. A partner through this life and the next, not so much!
This is a very selfish hobby. Crap happens. Good luck dude! Enjoy life.
albano
2500 Club Member
Wait! … it doesn’t end with THIS life!!!
QuickrdenU
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OP
OP
I agree 100%. Although I myself am a fan of hyperbolics. So I'll allow it in defense of comedy and making the point.
However, I didn't even yell. She didn't know. As I said in another post in this thread
"I knew the tank couldn't live forever. It was gonna be one thing or another that killed it."
I think I was lucky. I could have been a hurricane that left me with all dead fish and coral or a power outage or big dogs wrestling, who knows. The one thing I do know.is I was able to save all of my stock and drain it down before it blew out and all the water ended up under my floor. Heck, I only had to walk 20 feet for an appropriate Tupperware to store everything during rebuild on a new system.
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MoshJosh
2500 Club Member
Definitely an upgrade opportunity.
I just gifted a large sum to a wife's relative. That got me a 425XL. 2nd hand given but she was ok with quadrupling my tank capacity
OP
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I appreciate the sentiment. But sadly I'm quite flawed. I make up for it by showing restraint when I can.
AydenLincoln
Pufferfish lover!
I have a few choice words for her but I shall keep my mouth shut. Sorry to hear! I hope you lectured her and she realized she really messed up/shouldn’t have done what she did. I mean what was she thinking? It was a full tank with live animals. Not an easy thing to be moved and shouldn’t be moved period!
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OP
OP
I made a command decision.
There is an upgrade in the future, in accordance with and adjacent to some remodeling at home. But I'm thinking in the 3ft cube arena.
However, not with this tank. I need a home for a specific clownfish. She is the one fish that will ever go in this tank. She has quite the head count these days. I just recently tried her in a different system after a week in the acclimation box.
On day three she did her best Lizzy Borden. Bit my fire fish and killed it. Bit and injured my chalk bass, took about 1/3 of my McCoskers wrasse's tail. She also employed some dominance tactics on my flame hawkfish. Would just lay on him then chase him into a corner.
She had to go back into her own system.
So she's in a 15 gallon storage tub with all of her mixed reef goodies. Happy as can be.
I decided a IM 15 cube for her.
AydenLincoln
Pufferfish lover!
Well who is that cutie on the floor? What kind?You just described all my favorite parts of the hobby!
And the mid century with 3' cube tank. Although I'll tell you right now that a center overflow won't work. Not enough room left for rock and coral. Explored that and decided to go with a corner overflow.
gbroadbridge
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She moved my 6 year old IM 14 peninsula. I had digitata growing a mm from the surface. Monti cap, cyphestrea, digitata, multiple zoas growing off the glass. I've fragged it out and watched it grow back in three times now.
She torqued the tank dragging it across the room while I was at work. About 6 inches of the rhoght front from the top down is leaking...
A picture from right before it went nuts
Today
Time for an upgrade.
The tank or the wife, but I'd trade the wife.
You were so close! "grit through it like men are supposed to" is also an example of toxic masculinity. His feelings are valid (frustration, disappointment, even anger). The important parts are communication, empathy, and understanding. Something that a lot of the folks making divorce jokes (or not jokes) in the thread don't seem to have or know how to demonstrate. My wife would be mortified if this happened to her and I would absolutely find myself expressing my disappointment while also managing to reassure that we're all good.
Silly rant but I see a lot of "boomer humor" style jokes on here and it's incredibly tiring.
Glass half full. TG she didn't move the 120! lol. I'm sure she didn't know something like this would happen. Lots of sales going on right now. Best of luck and can't wait to see updates.
This sounds like an unmitigated disaster. So sorry you’re going through this.
And honestly, 95% of you commenting are like way better people than I am. Like you’re really making me think this over.
Ok, I thought about it. I choose the tank.
And honestly, 95% of you commenting are like way better people than I am. Like you’re really making me think this over.
Ok, I thought about it. I choose the tank.
Like, your bath tub?
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