A couple of points here... not that I am any kind or RFA expert.
I've got a couple of RFA that were born a few years ago and they are now 2+" in diameter. And I only individually feed them about once a month if that often. I do broadcast feed the tank with a wide variety of foods, so they do get food regularly.
I don't know one way or the other if the RFA with the open mouth is a female. It's possible. But I'd give that being an indicator; about a 50:50 chance.
Good luck and we want to hear about babies as soon as you see some. BTW, they are EXTREMELY small at birth. And some fish will eat them, especially Copper Banded Butterfly, file fish and some wrasses.