I realized it wasn't happy just couldn't figure out why. I've had that issue with some nems. As far as water condition, I did initially struggle with phosphates and nitrates, but I had gotten them under control around the time it started pinching its tentacles.
I don't do 2 part calcium. I started using Instant Oceans reef crystals about 4 months ago and I know that has Calcium, I use kalk but hardly any, and by hardly any I mean I've only made a mixture once and I add some of that to my water top off and changes. My ph is mostly always in the 7.9-8.1 range. Calcium has always around 450 ppm sometimes even got higher when I used purple tech. A LFS had told me to dose the tank with purple tech for Ca and coraline algae. But I would still check the Ca once a week to make sure it wasn't getting too high.
After the initial post, it lost almost all of its tentacles. Once I started feeding it more often it got much better. These pictures are after I moved everything into a 230 gallon tank I purchased. the lights are also different than the original tank. The nem was originally under a Radio xr30 now its under a black box and t5s. The new tank does have a dosing pump just need to figure out how to use it. For the new tank I have an ATO so the top offs are regular. Ca is around 430 ppm and ph ranges from 7.98-8.02 throughout the day. So thats why I haven't added any supplements yet. Tank is currently fishless. Fish are all under Quarantine, was afraid the move will stress them out. Which was a good thing since one fish did come down with ich. Heres a pic of the current set up. So far everything is stable. Minus a few pests I'm working on getting rid of. But always open to advice especially with a tank this size :D
Sick Nem today-
Full tank pics 2 weeks old. Have moved around a couple corals since-