I say the same thing about the pajama! I might just have to tell her it’s to peaceful and the other fish will kill it..I like that list.
Your wife is nuts for picking an ugly pajama cardinal over an anthias...but, different strokes...
H. claudia will more than likely be fine with big Lysmata spp (fire and skunk cleaners).
You may have trouble finding a starki, but every once in a while I see them on live aquaria. That's okay, since it probably should be last anyway.