I've had a green mandarin for a year now he was barely a spec when I got him now I love him so naturally i decide to get him a girlfriend. Paired my clowns first then my ywg's now seems I've hit the first bump in the road. They didnt fight at first but after a day the male seems to keep intimidating the small female into staying in the caves and doesn't want her to hunt pods in the open I dont want her to starve. It's been 5days she hardly ever comes out of hiding and when she does if he sees he nips at her and she runs in a cave. What should I do: take her back to the lfs and wait for a female more his size? She's about 3/4 of an inch and hes almost 3in.