The chicken or the egg? Actually, I am talking about family or fish tanks. Of course, it's family, but how many people have heard, "Sometimes, I think you care more about your fish than your family?"
I admit, I do talk about fish, coral, and my tanks a lot, but that is just because I love the hobby! It's the only thing I put extensive time into, besides, spending time with my family, but...
Tonight, my wife and I were talking about our big move to Japan (my wife is Japanese) and I simply stated, (kind of joking, but..not :xd, "I wish I could find someone to take care of my 2 clowns for like a month and after we move, I could have them ship them to me in Japan." I have a bonded pair of chocolate clowns that I have grown quite fond of since I got them 6 months ago). Now, I know this is not reality and the fact is, I will have to find a suitor for these 2 when we leave :sad:, but this sparked a little heat with me and my wife and she told me, I have to think about family first and sometimes, she thinks I care about my fish more than them. I mean, really? We just got back from a 2 week vacation from California, we go on lots of seasonal outings, Japanese and American festivals, we go out to breakfasts, lunches, and dinners on many weekends, I'm in college, and I work 50-60 hours M-F. My fish tank: Gets 1 good cleaning/water change a week and if I'm that busy, every other week.
Am I wrong? Do I need to give up the hobby to spend every waking minute with my family at my side......nah!!! I love them, but :frusty:, doesn't everyone need a place to escape? I just chose the best hobby in the world to do it!!!
Anyone else deal with issues such as this? What say you? :wave:
I admit, I do talk about fish, coral, and my tanks a lot, but that is just because I love the hobby! It's the only thing I put extensive time into, besides, spending time with my family, but...
Tonight, my wife and I were talking about our big move to Japan (my wife is Japanese) and I simply stated, (kind of joking, but..not :xd, "I wish I could find someone to take care of my 2 clowns for like a month and after we move, I could have them ship them to me in Japan." I have a bonded pair of chocolate clowns that I have grown quite fond of since I got them 6 months ago). Now, I know this is not reality and the fact is, I will have to find a suitor for these 2 when we leave :sad:, but this sparked a little heat with me and my wife and she told me, I have to think about family first and sometimes, she thinks I care about my fish more than them. I mean, really? We just got back from a 2 week vacation from California, we go on lots of seasonal outings, Japanese and American festivals, we go out to breakfasts, lunches, and dinners on many weekends, I'm in college, and I work 50-60 hours M-F. My fish tank: Gets 1 good cleaning/water change a week and if I'm that busy, every other week.
Am I wrong? Do I need to give up the hobby to spend every waking minute with my family at my side......nah!!! I love them, but :frusty:, doesn't everyone need a place to escape? I just chose the best hobby in the world to do it!!!
Anyone else deal with issues such as this? What say you? :wave:
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