Welcome! Glad you joined. My heart goes out to you. I can't imagine what you went thru and continue to do. It sounds like you have tremendous BBA - Bounce Back Ability - that is great for this hobby and also wonderful life skill.
Have you considered starting your build thread? I found its a great place to document my tank's evolution for myself. I started tank first then joined, so I'm still finding myself going back collecting pictures & updating historically as well as current state. Once you create your first post in your thread under Forum > Member Aquariums and link it to your account, they will give you build badge (look left, under my ID). Sometimes it also helps to have pictures of now in your tank, so you can see the progress you will be making over time. Your aquarium will take time to come back, patience is the magic in this hobby.
This might help you find people local to you:
https://www.reef2reef.com/forums/global-local-reef-club-discussion.634/
This is a good reference book type online article I still review:
https://www.reef2reef.com/ams/the-supreme-guide-to-setting-up-a-saltwater-reef-aquarium.84/
