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Personal Experience Reefkeeping: Patience or Persistence or Something Else?

An essay from one of our very experienced reef aquarists on what it takes to succeed in this hobby.
  1. 120reefkeeper

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    Reefkeeping: Patience or Persistence or Something Else?

    From time to time I like to reflect on what I’ve been through during my reefkeeping years. From almost day one of this marvelous hobby, I was told, “You have to have patience” or “If you don’t have patience then you might as well stop."

    This got me thinking as of late. A good friend of mine assured me that I don’t have patience, but I am the most persistent person he’s met. I didn’t know if I should take this as a compliment or a slap in the face?

    Let’s look at the definitions shall we?

    Patience: the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.

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    I think as a simple human being that having patience with anything is a stretch. We all run into problems with our aquariums from time to time. We deal with delay, trouble, and suffering.

    Do we get angry or upset? I know I have and still do from time to time. This is completely natural. Does this mean we don’t have patience? I don’t think so. I believe it’s how we deal with these setbacks and feelings that makes all the difference. Is it challenging? Sure it is! Sometimes we just have to let things run their course; other times we have to jump in and make a change. Does that mean we are not patient? That’s tough to say--sometimes we get ahead of ourselves and want to act when we should really wait. This is where advice from other experienced reefers comes in. This is what friends are for, they can assure us that either we need to have patience or we need to act to persevere!

    Persistence/perseverance: to continue resolutely despite difficulty, delay, or opposition in achieving success.

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    This is where I believe most long-term reefkeepers find themselves. They have persevered over almost every reefkeeping setback you can imagine. What makes them different? What makes them tick? They don’t give up! They meet the challenges head on and stick it out. They are not afraid to ask for help or advice and will do most anything to learn more about this hobby.

    I like to confuse the two different terms I guess. I believe that to be in this hobby you start with having some patience, but perseverance, my friends, is what will take you to a whole new level. This is what will make you successful long term.

    So in closing I’ll just say, the next time you get to interact with someone newer to the hobby, take them under your wing and show them how to be persistent!

    Stay Salty!!

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    Note from the Editor: This essay, above, reminded me of one of my favorite quotes.

    "Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not: nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not: the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent."

    Calvin Coolidge

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    Author Profile: @120reefkeeper

    Mike has been involved in the marine hobby both personally and professionally for over 20 years. His strengths are plumbing, welding and fabrication, tank builds, dosing, and automation. Mike is also a veteran of the United States Marine Corps. His favorite quote is, “I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life. No one comes to the Father except through me. “ Jesus Christ
     

  2. Seawitch

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    Thank you for writing this @120reefkeeper. I have to say that this essay is particularly meaningful to me, as someone just starting out with saltwater, and who is pretty scared of everything that could go wrong.
     
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    Nice uplifting, positive affirmation for reefkeeping and many other aspects of life. Thanks for the posting! :)
     
  4. Captain Quint

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    @120reefkeeper great uplifting article! Thanks, Marine.

    And thanks a bunch @Seawitch for the eloquent structure as always.
     
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    hahhahaaa eloquent structure? That's @120reefkeeper who is eloquent. I'm just the maid. Thanks Captain. :D
     
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    LOL. Don't make the Marine mad. Very well worded then. :)
     
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    You’re very welcome! We have all had setbacks! You will Persevere!
     
  8. 120reefkeeper

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    You’re Very welcome! It’s the Reefkeeing life!
     
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    Ahhh very smart @Captain Quint !
     
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    Great stuff, Mike!! Thanks so much for putting this together, my friend!!
     
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    You’re welcome my friend! I’m glad you like it !
     
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    @120reefkeeper, excellent article. Flipper approves!

    Determination and a never surrender drive keeps Flipper swimming!
     
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    Thank you! There is power in Perseverance!
     
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    You have to be persistant, but patient in the process. Too many hobbyists pay much attention to parameters or something out of place and miss the opportunity to enjoy their tanks and creations.
     
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    Yes I agree, but as we all know this is not easy! It’s not easy or natural to be patient. Persistence is the linchpin IMHO.
     
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    Mike, great words for anybody who is new or struggling to get things right in this hobby (or in life). I had a rough time for my first few years. After that it was the occasional hardware setback (like a 180g DT springing an unstoppable leak). Now I have a fairly carefree 40g tank that whenever I look at it a smile comes to my face and I couldn't be happier as it's just what I want it to be! It all takes time.
     
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    Well, put my friend.
     
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    "Nothing good happens fast in this hobby" is so true in reefing. But I also find it true in woodworking, welding, running my small orchard. Can't understand why so many people are in such a big hurry these days. :rolleyes:
     
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    There have been so many advancements made in technology over the last 10-20 years. With everything we have at our fingertips these days , it’s very easy to get into a hurry. I find myself looking for instant gratification sometimes. I can only image growing up and not seeing what it was like before all these advancements. That helps put things in perspective. As a hobby it’s gotten much much more user friendly!! With that being said the best we can do is to continue to help folks understand that this is for pleasure, the shear enjoyment and wonderment of it. It’s time to slow down, learn, relax and enjoy the challenge and the ride. It’s a wonderful learning experience and the end results will justify the means!
     
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    Persistence, patience, and ... problem solving. There is no auto pilot in this hobby and what worked yesterday may suddenly not today. Observe, make slow changes, and try, try again.
     
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