After several tours I was critically injured. My reef serves as therapy (I never took the meds). My SO understands this and she is involved to a degree with my tanks because she understands it’s important to me. I can’t imagine getting nagged, I’d put her on couch probation.
Ok, I’m confused. You’re saying it’s NOT ok for your wife to question where money is being spent, but it IS ok for you to force her to sleep on the couch? Seems a bit hypocritical.