Dealing with overly friendly neighbors...help!!

[wesman42]

So my fiance and I moved into our new home around 6 months ago. We have a Great Dane, and he loves to run around outside in the backyard (which wraps around to the front/side of the property).

For the first few months we were not approached by our new neighbors. Fast forward to last few months, and we've met quite a few of them on our block. Our neighbor across the street, most recently (last month or so) is a little bit overbearing as a neighbor. He comes over unannounced and regularly pets my dog or even brings his dogs over unannounced and has them play with mine.

So it's not really the fact that this is occurring that bugs me, it's more so the fact that the neighbor doesn't ask to pet or play with my dog. I've been quite kind about it, brushing it off even.

Despite this, I regularly get bombarded after a long day (RIGHT after I get out of the car). I usually am brief, but friendly and conversational.


What on earth would you do in this situation, it seems the neighbor and his wife might be pretty lonely. I've thought about inviting them over but I don't have time between full-time work, school, and taking care of my fish tanks/pets.

Again, I've been friendly, and conversational but it's just flat out scary to my fiance, me it's more comical because he's so oblivious...and obviously quite lonely.

So I need advice so I have a well rounded decision! I don't want to push away a potentially good friend, but I want to respectfully convey my boundaries without making him feel like he's not wanted. He's a great guy really, but a little rough around the edges.

 

[ruth howard]

Congrats on your new house! Continue to due what you have been doing. Good, friendly neighbors (even if they bug you a little) are worth their weight in gold. You never know when you may need a dog sitter or someone trustworthy to feed them or let them out if you go on vacation. You never know when you might need someone to watch over your tank someday, as well.

 

[Katrina71]

I never want to be rude, but I do understand. Maybe a polite way to have more private time is just be honest. Tell him you have "obligations" to your fiance. He might even high five ya.

 

[Nate77]

Congrats on the house. If they are a lonely couple ,elderly, or don't get along, could be his excuse to get out of the house for a little. If he is causing no harm petting you dog and his dogs aren't causing no harm to you dog, I would let it go but keep watch from inside. If he is on you as soon as you get out of the car, talk for a couple minutes and tell him you don't mean to cut it short but you need to get dinner started. Invite him over on you maintenance days and have him help is a possibility too.
I will say I take an overbearing friendly neighbor over a not so friendly or noisy neighbor.

 

[norfolkgarden]

Lol, +1 on the overbearing friendly neighbor!

Bad or disgruntled neighbors can give you a lifetime headache.

 

[norfolkgarden]

If your biggest problem is they are overly friendly please get down on your knees and thank the Lord.
[emoji6]

We are very fortunate to have good neighbors almost all around us. Only one makes me shake my head and hope they move eventually.

 

[KJAG]

Story of my life. Live in a tight knit community. We’ve got the crusty old beach guy cracking coors originals at 0800 on the corner, the drunken sailors next door, the nosy retired guy next over, and finally the hillbillie white “rapper kids” on the other side. I find that the “fake cell phone call,” is effective. Just pretend like you’re on the phone when they start walking over. Usually will deter them.

 

[cracker]

sorry Frank I'm not feeling well & very busy right now.

 

[WVNed]

Mention your dog has fleas.

 

[Gareth elliott]

Ideas to get your neighbors to stop talking to you.

1). Print up some brochures of people with puppets, and hand them out to him. Telling him this is something very important to you, would he like to come to some meetings. Will help your case if you buckle a puppet in your car while pulling up.

2). Learn klingon, greet him in klingon, when in front of him act as if you think you are a klingon.

3). Become a mime or a magician. No one actually likes either of these. Probably the easiest of the ideas.

 

[norfolkgarden]

Ideas to get your neighbors to stop talking to you.

1). Print up some brochures of people with puppets, and hand them out to him. Telling him this is something very important to you, would he like to come to some meetings. Will help your case if you buckle a puppet in your car while pulling up.

2). Learn klingon, greet him in klingon, when in front of him act as if you think you are a klingon.

3). Become a mime or a magician. No one actually likes either of these. Probably the easiest of the ideas.

Noooo please.
[emoji4]

Good decent neighbors are a gold mine.
You don't realize how lucky you are until the nice neighbor who needs to be reminded to return tools is replaced by the loud party neighbors.
Or the children from hell most likely the culprits down the street intentionally throwing rocks through car windows parked on the street.

We were pretty concerned when we lost our 92 year old neighbor.
The young people who moved in enjoy life but are very respectful.

The fires in the new backyard pit are controlled and the music is quiet. Even when it lasts till 4am.
(Sigh, I know cause I had to get up to go to the bathroom)
They are very nice.

Lol, kinda fun to watch nice younger people enjoying life.
Glad we have them as neighbors!