These typically are no problem to get to feed, there may be an underlying issue with yours. Try a live black molly impaled on a long broom straw or really heavy monofilament line. Get near the fish's mouth, but don't touch it with the fish. See if it takes it that way. Obviously, this requires you putting your hand in the tank, unless the feeding stick is very long.
I always keep antivenin on hand when I have these. I also use the "two person" method where we don't access the tank unless a back up person is present.
Overfeeding and obesity (fatty liver) is a bigger problem with these than is under feeding. They can go at least a month with no food if in good condition.
You can treat them with prazi and/or metro, but I'm not sure what you would be treating for that would keep it from eating.
I don't have an exact breathing rate for these, but if you post a video, I can tell you if yours is breathing faster than normal for this species.
Here is some good information on first aid for stings from these fish:
https://www.mountsinai.org/health-library/poison/stonefish-sting
Soak the wound with hot water. The water should be around 100°F to 113°F (40°C to 45°C) or as hot as can be comfortably tolerated. Soak for 30 to 90 minutes, periodically checking to make sure the water is still warm. Soaking in hot water helps to inactivate the venom and relieve pain. After soaking, gently wash the wound with mild soap and clean water to remove any dirt, debris, or venom that may be present.