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Now you Gotta Keeper ..... No Really.... Keep Her......Makes me feel lucky! When I asked my wife if I could set up a 55 gallon saltwater aquarium her response was "What am I, your mother "? And then she told me that 55 seemed a little small for a saltwater tank but maybe it would be a good size to learn on then when I figured it out I could upgrade..♂
Just giving my opinion, I agree that the hardcore blue light seen through windows looks really "tacky." It looks like a rave or something unseemly. It's just most people don't have experience with reef lighting (95% of people).
Just giving my opinion, I agree that the hardcore blue light seen through windows looks really "tacky." It looks like a rave or something unseemly. It's just most people don't have experience with reef lighting (95% of people).
I’ve I reported the rabid assaults on your marriage, those comments were pretty tacky. You didn’t ask for marriage advice but you do seem to be wondering how to move forward given your wife’s obsession with aesthetics.So... yes, another thread on this topic.
A little background: My wife is VERY into aesthetics. If something doesn’t perfectly fit the room or it doesn’t look chic or stands out, she thinks it’s tacky or trashy. I don’t think she is completely opposed to the idea of me having a tank after she saw how great it looked and how much my little 9 month old daughter loved watching it before.
I was able to get a small tank Red Sea E170 with white cabinet in our current place we just sold since she worked with me to design a room around it, so it looked like it fit in more. The room was a loft on the interior of the house and was not visible from any windows. She hated the higher kelvin temp lighting because she thinks it looks tacky, especially if you could see it from a window from the outside of the home.
So, we are moving and building a new home, which meant renting for 3-4 months. Home should be done on March. I sold our tank and all livestock and shut everything down since I couldn’t have it while renting. Putting the money from sales aside to hopefully start a new tank next year. Of course being a reefer, I think about upgrades and having a larger system that is planned out to go in a specific room in our house and have a water station the the basement. She seemed on board and supportive at first, given our daughter’s interest in the tank.
As we are talking about the house and the design and look of the rooms, she just casually mentions, she has been thinking and she doesn’t want a tank in a place where people can see the “tacky bluish light” through a window... which rules out every room in the house other than the unfinished basement. So to me it feels like she just shut down the idea of a tank at all...
I really wanted the tank on the main floor, just so my daughter and I can enjoy it, and honestly don’t care about what people think of the color hue of light they can see through a window when they drive by our house... I think it is a little obsessive and frustrating that she cares so much that now I can’t have the tank in a main living space where I could enjoy it. I no longer see it worth the investment to put it somewhere where it is basically hidden and I don’t spend any time.
Any tips or ideas on how I can approach this? I know this hobby is a fulfilling and very fun one, and I’d rather not give it up if I don’t have to. Plus it might be a fun way to enjoy something and bond with my daughter as she gets older.
That would explain your profile pic.... Can anyone say " SELFIE "I have my one room and my wife has the rest of the house. Been that way for almost 40 years. Take the basement. The longer you are married the more time you will spend there
I had no choice. Too many people confusing me with Brad Pitt.That would explain your profile pic.... Can anyone say " SELFIE "
Been married 26 years and together 28! She's put up with me this long so she's not going anywhere! LolNow you Gotta Keeper ..... No Really.... Keep Her......