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Does anyone else get scared to ask certain questions about problems they are facing because of the fear of judgement?

Sure... isn't that part of human nature?

On the plus side, this site seems to have more helpful and friendly people so don't be too scared... and if you've done either/both google search and site search and didn't find your answer, then thank goodness this site exists to get your question answered!
 

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Does anyone else get scared to ask certain questions about problems they are facing because of the fear of judgement?
I definitely have that now, it’s weird when people ask you for help and then all of a sudden you need the help.
Once your name starts to get big in one section it’s just scary to ask certain things.
 

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Sometime. . . like why is the yellow tang in my 5 gallon tank acting so weird. . . last time I asked everyone freaked out. . . gosh!!!

Kidding

But for real yeah sometime I am afraid to ask, mostly due to the shame of knowing I did something I shouldn't have, or did something without proper research first. Example: buying a fish on a whim. . .
 

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Not at all. This is a very welcoming forum, I've noticed. I've been on a few freshwater forums where people had some incredible attitudes and were shaming people left and right and I'm not there any more for that reason. But I'm not getting that vibe here, which is why I decided to join.

That said, I DO try to research as much as possible before asking questions, but that's the autism talking. :beaming-face-with-smiling-eyes:
 

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I’d echo the others - R2R really is a nicer forum than many, and much nicer than most FB groups. That’s why I’m here, I got tired of the drama in some other hobbyist sites.
I do also agree that sometimes people sound blunt - like when I get overwhelmed, my posts will sound dogmatic, but that is a function of writing too fast….

So what dumb question do you have?

Jay
 

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You will get plenty of help regardless of the question. This is anything but an exact science so even though many of us have been in the hobby for decades we still have plenty of learning to do. My only pet peeve is that many of the same questions appear daily even though the answer could have easily been found using the search option. So ask away.
 

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Does anyone else get scared to ask certain questions about problems they are facing because of the fear of judgement?
Nope. Better to ask and be thought a bit foolish than to say and do nothing and remove all doubt.

Just don't ask me why I like my Red Sea tank and why it hasn't broken yet, because that's when the thread gets quickly derailed...
 

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Nope. Better to ask and be thought a bit foolish than to say and do nothing and remove all doubt.

Just don't ask me why I like my Red Sea tank and why it hasn't broken yet, because that's when the thread gets quickly derailed...
Why do you like your Red Sea? I hear they suck. Really judging you for making that decision.
 

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Does anyone else get scared to ask certain questions about problems they are facing because of the fear of judgement?

No but that is because I played video games and people are absolutely ruthless in online gaming so anything here is hardly offensive anymore.. so desensitized. :face-in-clouds:

Randy's thread is pretty spicy right now... I could see why some people would be afraid to post something.
 

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Why do you like your Red Sea? I hear they suck. Really judging you for making that decision.

Maya Rudolph Judging You GIF by Saturday Night Live
 

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No but that is because I played video games and people are absolutely ruthless in online gaming so anything here is hardly offensive anymore.. so desensitized. :face-in-clouds:

Randy's thread is pretty spicy right now... I could see why some people would be afraid to post something.
I have learned to try to pull back when people talk online. The missing contextual clues and nuance make things escalate very fast. Take the missing context and hyper sensitivity and you get a loathe some mix.
 

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yes sometimes I feel pretty dumb asking a question as the answer might be too easy…

but I just want to be sure….

Here is one about dosing:

I do use tropic marin balling and need to dose the following:

50ml per 100litre raises Alk by 1,4 dKh

I dose 28ml for my 200litres and that should raise Alk by 0.4 dKh~

If I would switch to Modern Reef I need:

10ml per 100 litres raises Alk by 1,0 dKH

So, do I need to dose 8ml to raise Alk by 0.4 dKh for 200litres??
 

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I have learned to try to pull back when people talk online. The missing contextual clues and nuance make things escalate very fast. Take the missing context and hyper sensitivity and you get a loathe some mix.
I've developed thick skin. And I carry a hammer when all else fails. :rolling-on-the-floor-laughing:
 

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I've developed thick skin. And I carry a hammer when all else fails. :rolling-on-the-floor-laughing:
I generally do as well...but my blood boils for the self-righteous people that want to debate but refuse to listen to someone else' point of view. That is no longer debating...that is just monologuing for an audience. Once I see that going on..I ensure that the question about context and nuance are fully answered.
 

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Nope. Better to ask and be thought a bit foolish than to say and do nothing and remove all doubt.
That's odd. I was always taught that the quote was :
"Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt."
:beaming-face-with-smiling-eyes: :cool:
 

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No matter where we are or what we are doing on a daily basis , someone somewhere is judging us .
Let it go !
who cares what everyone else thinks . This is your system , your investment .

now we can move forward to what’s the question you’re hesitant of asking ?
 

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